Come out: Wherever you are.

I chose to review same-sex marriage articles. I chose this topic because I have dear friends that were recently married here in Ontario at the Grand pride wedding: http://www.prideweddingtoronto.com/

I thought it would be interesting to explore articles of this nature, as I strongly believe in love (regardless of sexual orientation) I hope you enjoy my “tongue in cheek” title!

I found that some thesis statements were difficult to pinpoint and extract. As I wrote my annotations, I really second guessed some of my choices and I still think I may have missed the mark on a couple. Ultimately, this assignment was very  useful in regards to writing preparation. I feel that it was wise of our educators to choose this assignment, especially given that we will be expected to start writing essays of our own shortly.

  1. “Persons who attend churches where between 25 and 75 percent of attendees of another race are more likely to support gay sex, marriage, and adoption compared with those who attend more racially homogenous churches” (Perry, 2013, p. 1) Annotation: Diverse congregations are more likely to be accepting of liberalism in terms of same-sex marriage and adoption.
  2. Further, while the overall language in the New York Times became more inclusive of the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender community at large, bisexual men and women are still largely absent within the marriage equality discourse. (Hackl, Boyer, & Galupo, 2012, p. 512) Annotation: The New York Times is not as diverse in regards to same-sex marriage as it could be, although there have been improvements.
  3. The purpose of this article is to provide a narrative review of the literature regarding research that has been conducted about attitude toward same-sex marriage. (Webb & Chonody, 2013, p. 404) Annotation: Investigates in detail how same-sex individuals wanting to have children could be part of the reason they experience prejudice surrounding same-sex marriage.
  4. Patterns in divorce risks are quite similar in same-sex and opposite sex marriages, but divorce risk levels are considerably higher in same-sex partnership (Anderson, Noack, Seierstad, & Fekjaer, 2004) Annotation: Explores issues surrounding same-sex marriages, including pressures faces by these couples that may contribute to divorce.
  5. I argue that while same-sex couples, like heterosexual couples, can realize bodily union in their sexual activities, bodily union is neither metaphysically significant nor morally interesting. (Johnston, 2013, p. 289) Annotation: Articles seeks to prove that bodily union should not be the reason that same-sex couples are not allowed to marry.
  6. The overall objective of this paper is to shed light on the combination of conditions that can account for the variation in national gay marriage policy in the west. (Pettinicchio, 2012, p. 528) Annotation: Explores in detail the diverse reasons that some western countries do not support same-sex marriages. The article explores policies (religious and political) that may play a role.
  7. This note criticizes the gendered approach to Intimate Partner Violence legislation and enforcement and recommends changes in legislation and the provision of social services that would significantly improve the equal treatment of victims of IPV. (Morin, 2014, p. 479) Annotation: The article speaks to the issue of discrimination that same-sex couples may face within the legal, counselling and social services fields that should be a support in a time of crisis.
  8. In this research note I examine changing attitudes toward same-sex marriage through two sets of analysis. (Baunach, 2012, p. 364) Annotation: This article looks at data from 1988 through 2010 to determine statistics related to attitudes surrounding same-sex marriage.
  9. We discuss the compatibility of religious conservatism and liberal, pluralistic democracy with respect to Korean Christians (KCs) in the USA (Yi, Philips, & Sung, 2014, p. 416) Annotation: Looking at how modern KCs view same-sex marriage as opposed to their elders. The study focuses on KCs living in western society.
  10. The current study sought to investigate these non-traditional families and the dynamics underpinning their resilience. (Titlestad & Pooley, 2013, p. 329) Annotation: Reviews children of same-sex marriages in regards to their adulthood, career choices, mental health and general well-being as opposed to children raised in a “traditional” environment.

 

 

References

Anderson, G., Noack, T., Seierstad, A., & Fekjaer, H.-. (2004). The demographics of same-sex marriages in Norway and Sweden. Retrieved October 21, 2014, from http://www.demogr.mpg.de/papers/working/wp-2004-018.pdf

Baunach, D. M. (2012, June 1). Changing same-sex marriage attitudes in America from 1988 through 2010. Public Opinion Quarterly, 76(2), 364-378. http://dx.doi.org/10.1093/poq/nfs022

Hackl, A. M., Boyer, C. R., & Galupo, M. P. (2012, October 18). From“gay marriage controversy” (2004) to “endorsement of same-sex marriage” (2012): framing bisexuality in the marriage equality discourse. Sexuality & Culture, 17(3), 512-524. http://dx.doi.org/10.1007/s12119-012-9159-9

Johnston, R. (2013, April 1). Marriage and the metaphysics of bodily untion: Framing the same-sex marriage debate. Social theory & practice , 39(2), 288-312. http://dx.doi.org/10.5840/soctheorpract201339216

Morin, C. (2014, July 1). Re-traumatized: How gendered laws exacerbate the harm for same-sex victims of intimate partner violence. New England Journal on Criminal & Civil Confinement, 40(2), 477-497. Retrieved from http://www.nesl.edu/students/ne_journal_ccc.cfm

Perry, S. L. (2013, may 1, 2013). Multiracial church attendance and support for same-sex romantic and family relationships. Sociological Inquiry, 83(2), 1. http://dx.doi.org/10.1111/soin.12005

Pettinicchio, D. (2012, September 1). Current explanations for the variations in same-sex marriage policies in western countries. Comparative Sociology, 11(), 526-557. http://dx.doi.org/10.1163/15691330-12341234

Titlestad, A., & Pooley, J. A. (2013, November 21). Resilience in same-sex parented families: The lived experience of adults with gay, lesbian or bisexual parents. GLBT Family Studies, 10(4), 329-353. http://dx.doi.org/10.1080/1550428X.2013.833065

Webb, S. N., & Chonody, J. (2013, November 21). Heterosexual attitudes toward same-sex marriage: The influence of attitudes toward same sex parenting. GLBT family Studies, 10(4), 404-421. http://dx.doi.org/10.1080/1550428X.2013.832644

Yi, J., Philips, J., & Sung, S.-D. (2014, August 2014). Same-sex marriage, Korean Christians and the challenge of Democratic engagement. Society, 51(4), 415-422. http://dx.doi.org/10.1007/s12115-014-9802-1

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Expression of Self: A Journey through Titles

In the beginning:

I know that within my own personal writing style, a strong title can eliminate writers block and provide me with the focus I require to begin a paper. This is not to suggest that the title is set in stone, the title well may later change (or be scrapped entirely) and the focus of my paper right along with it! Regardless, the title of my piece always directly affects the content of my material. It is always my silent measure and guide, keeping me on track and organizing thought.

Suddenly I found myself wanting to know more about titles than the fact it neatly outlines your personal perspective and directs your audience. Exploring titles within the realm of Interdisciplinary Study with a focus on Journals and Academic papers was an interesting journey. There are many styles, strategies and elements to consider where titles are involved. I discovered that there are common formats (over 15) but this can be broken down into three types Jamali & Nikzad, 2014 as cited in (Eprints.rclis.org, 2014)

  • Declarative titles– state the main findings or conclusions (e.g. ‘A three-month weight loss program increases self-esteem in adolescent girls’)
  • Descriptive titles – describe the subject of the article but do not reveal the main conclusions (e.g. ‘The effects of family support on patients with dementia’).
  • Interrogative titles -introduce the subject in the form of a question (e.g. ‘Does cognitive training improve performance on pattern recognition tasks?’)

So as I began to look for tips on writing articles, I began to learn some interesting facts:

The Publication Manual of the American Psychological Association (APA, 2009) prescribes simplicity and style. The best titles identify the manuscript’s key variables, theories, and the relationships among them. Their favored titles are “fully explanatory while standing alone” and omit extraneous words and abbreviations according to APA, 2009, p. 23 as cited in (Eprints.rclis.org,. 2014). Titles should be concise, with no more than 12 words. Subtitles should be reserved for supplementary information that helps the reader retrieve needed information, e.g., about the study’s methodology, but should be avoided where key elements can be arranged without a colon APA, 2009, p. 23 as cited in (Eprints.rclis.org,. 2014).

The Colon:

Colons are used to add additional pieces of information to a title – but are they always necessary? So for example – Interdisciplinary Teams: Can we resolve issues and break new ground by amalgamating various fields? Could this title be re-written to exclude the colon and actually make more sense? I could have said: How interdisciplinary teams from various fields break new ground and resolve issues.

My titles:

Writing titles that were suitable for my first paper was an awful experience. I struggled as I tried to cover all of my bases. If I wanted to use acronyms I realized I would be cutting put a large majority of individuals that would read my paper. If I didn’t use acronyms given the topic I had in mind my titles would not makes sense however. I was also conscious of the fact that my titles would also need to be useful for individuals performing electronic searches. If you were not familiar with an acronym, the odds of understanding or finding a relevant article to your needs through a Google search would be slim.

My first paper would focus on injured adults working with WSIB (Workplace Safety & Insurance Board) to develop a return to study action plan and the role of career educators to support student success. I want WSIB case workers to understand the importance of working with career educators and coaches as this serves to increase injured adult learner student success and persistence. My challenge was that WSIB is native to Ontario, so this acronym would not necessarily translate well. I practised with various titles regardless. I certainly have more issues with titles to explore after completing this assignment.

 

Declarative Title: Interdisciplinary teams increase academic satisfaction within injured adult learners fighting insurance company pressures.

Descriptive title: The positive effects of Career Coaches on injured adult learners entering post-secondary education.

Interrogative Title: Do Insurance Companies force injured adult workers into post-secondary programs based upon cheap tuition and short program durations?

The Colon: Understanding the injured adult learner: Insurance companies and career coaches use positive solutions and interdisciplinary coaching methods

 Title with an abbreviation (regardless): When choice is not your own to make: WSIB forces workers into post-secondary programs with no career education

 

References:

American Psychological Association [APA]. (2009). Publication manual of the American Psychological Association (6th ed.). Washington, DC: Author.Eprints.rclis.org,. (2014). Retrieved 18 October 2014, from http://eprints.rclis.org/19669/1/Jamali_title.pdf

 

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Open Access Journals

http://www.religionandgender.org/index.php/rg/index

http://www.ceric.ca/cjcd/

My level of comfort within my profession essentially dictated that I research career related open access journals. I came across the electronic Canadian Journal of Career Development and explored the journal thoroughly. I had quite a difficult time deciding on a secondary journal to research and compare. This was mainly because some journals were so beyond my comprehension it was painful and secondly, because I had an idea of a topic I wanted to focus on. I wanted to explore the LGBTQ community and any related open access journals. I want to build upon my knowledge base surrounding the LGTBQ community and career advising (especially given the diverse campus I work within) The challenge was not finding wonderful journals (I found many), but the open access piece proved to be quite a challenge. I eventually settled on a journal called Religion and Gender. It is far outside my comfort zone in terms of knowledge, but it also covered some of the sexuality issues I wanted to explore.

Point Form Comparison:

The journals were fundamentally similar in set-up and presentation (although certain features differed) they each offered:

  • Electronic based journals
  • Helpful homepage
  • Submission guidelines
  • Free publication due to grant support and/or author pays once article is accepted
  • Book reviews
  • Announcements
  • Table of contents/editorial
  • Published bi-annually

The Canadian Journal of Career Development also presented social media links to FB and LinkedIn and there is an awards section describing the lifetime of achievement award for career involvement. This is available to members of the career community and the award is presented at the annual  Cannexus conference (National Career Development conference) There was not a limit of how many articles could be published per journal and I did not notice any verbiage surrounding how often the journal is published. The reason the journal is open access is because the journal is published with grant support from the Canadian Educations and Research Institute for Counselling (CERIC) (CERIC.ca,2014)

I found the articles well within my area of comfort and really enjoyed reading a few within the recent publication. One that stood out in particular was: Teaching Pre-Service Teachers in Career Education: Developing Foundational Perceptions, Teachings and Skills. The journal explores why students are dissatisfied with the career support they receive from K – Gr 12 and discusses the outcome of a study to integrate career education into regular curriculum (Slomp, Gunn & Bernes, 2014) This article stood out to me primarily because I have recently been exploring ways to amalgamate my department into the classroom via Program Mapping (this entails working with deans to find areas of curriculum suitable to insert career education) There were many articles that I plan to re-visit and I have saved this journal as a favorite.

Religion and Gender typically focuses on one topic per Journal (suggestions and submissions surrounding journal topic are welcomed and published bi-annually) The journal had quite a useful FAQ section and Editorial. The editorial explains that this issue if the first one that does not feature one special topic, but instead, includes two articles on separate topics and a few book reviews (Gender, R. 2014) I enjoyed browsing the book reviews immensely, and realize that I have much to learn surrounding gender, religion and culture in terms of history, as much as present day. I realized, through exploring this journal, that it would be ignorant to focus on present day issues and sensitivities without understanding past experiences. One book review in particular explores Muslim women in regards to law in the formative and classical periods of Islamic law. The author describes marriage, divorce, male guardianship and family roles throughout several chapters.  Women in Classic Islamic Law could potentially appeal to a variety of readers and although it was outside of the LGTBQ scope that I was initially hoping to research, I found the journal fascinating. After exploring the archives portion of the journal, I discovered several other volumes that I will be exploring. This included volume 2, from 2012 and I included the titles that appealed to me. There are several journal entries per title and some of the articles are quite difficult to read.

2012

 

I am looking forward to exploring this journal further!

 

Ali, T. (2014). Review of Susan A. Spectorsky, Women in Classical Islamic Law: A Survey of the Sources , Leiden: Brill 2009. Religion And Gender, 4(1), 40-42. Retrieved from http://www.religionandgender.org/index.php/rg/articl

 

Gender, R. (2014). Editorial. Religion And Gender4(1), 1-2. Retrieved from

http://www.religionandgender.org/index.php/rg/article/view/9531/pdf_19

 

Slomp, M., Gunn, T., Bernes, K. (2014). Training Pre-Service Teachers in Career Education: Developing Foundational Perceptions, Knowledge and Skills. Volume 13, Number 2. Retrieved from http://www.ceric.ca/cjcd/current/v13-n2/Training%20Pre-Service%20Teachers%20in%20Career%20Education.pdf

The Canadian Journal of Career Development | Revue canadienne de développement de carrière. Retrieved 10 October 2014, from http://www.ceric.ca/cjcd/node/9

 

 

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Silent Communication

I really wanted to  think of an example that would match this weeks readings. I wanted to highlight an example where I read a situation incorrectly , so I had to think back to 2008 and the start of my Career Counselling career.

There was the client that would smile in a very smug way on both occasions that we worked together and I used to become angry and unsettled deep inside. I never showed that I felt  rattled, but I was quicker to work through an appointment than usual. Toward the end of the second appointment I was fed up, so I took an emotional risk and  asked the client directly “I feel that you seem to view me as useless or uninformative based on the face you are making, am I wrong?” To which he replied “oh am I making that face?, I do that when I am really very nervous, I’m so sorry, it has caused issues before now”. Of course I felt awful. There had been so many other signs that this client was nervous( in hindsight) I had completely read the situation incorrectly (I had even created a situation in my head that lead me to thinking my instincts were telling me I was likely in danger) We had a very solid working relationship later on, but if I had simply had the client removed from my caseload I would not have been able to experience the learning curve. I took an emotional risk by addressing the level of discomfort I was experiencing and it paid off.

That is a far as that thought ever got because my beautiful and big son (21 months and 33 pounds) entered the room. He was clearly upset, but I had no way of knowing what he way saying. He was trying so hard to tell me what happened and I kept trying to guess over and over again incorrectly. I could see his frustration increasing and I felt awful for him, but frustrated also (and embarrassed for me) His eye’s were wide then tiny and squinted, his lip quivered fiercely, then was wide in anger! Ultimately I ended up finding out that he had put his toothbrush into the toilet and it had sunk to the bottom. We gave him a new one and ensured the door was shut. But it seemed so timely as I had just read “The Naked Face” by Malcolm Gladwell. He had covered a portion of his article that seemed to match perfectly:

“You must have had the experience where somebody comments on your expression and you didn’t know you were making it,”Ekman says. “Somebody tells you, “What are you getting upset about?’ “Why are you smirking?’ You can hear your voice, but you can’t see your face. If we knew what was on our face, we would be better at concealing it. But that wouldn’t necessarily be a good thing. Imagine if there were a switch that all of us had, to turn off the expressions on our face at will. If babies had that switch, we wouldn’t know what they were feeling. They’ d be in trouble. You could make an argument, if you wanted to, that the system evolved so that parents would be able to take care of kids. Or imagine if you were married to someone with a switch? It would be impossible. I don’t think mating and infatuation and friendships and closeness would occur if our faces didn’t work that way.” (Gladwell, 2002)

Soothing his tears and hearing his happy jibber jabber reminded me (in a timely manner) just how true the article really is!

Gladwell, M. (2002). The Naked Face.Gladwell.com. Retrieved 5 October 2014, from http://gladwell.com/the-naked-face/

 

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The Face Never Lies

So part of my assignment this week was to read Malcolm Gladwell’s “The Naked face”. I have to say that I found the article absolutely fascinating and I have broken it down:

Article Overview

The article follows several individuals and their personal (and remarkable) stories as they relate to instincts, facial reading and why or how it affected their life (positively) The article begins by introducing us to a (now retired) police officer. Gladwell really takes the time to give you a perfect (yet brief) understanding of  John Yarborough (sound judgment, good common sense, good education and upbringing) This helps you to see that the we are talking about well respected professionals, that in this case, possess a remarkable ability to read faces. The article further explores the connection between “hunches” and face reading ability. Can individuals be trained to hone this skill that some seem to be able to do so naturally?

What happens next?

Well, there would never be progression or advancement within society without some remarkable (and interdisciplinary) teamwork involved. I have decided to include an excerpt in the hopes of whetting your appetite

 

Paul Ekman is now in his sixties. He is clean-shaven, with closely set eyes and thick, prominent eyebrows, and although he is of medium build, he seems much larger than he is: there is something stubborn and substantial in his demeanor. He grew up in Newark, the son of a pediatrician, and entered the University of Chicago at fifteen. He speaks deliberately: before he laughs, he pauses slightly, as if waiting for permission. He is the sort to make lists, and number his arguments. His academic writing has an orderly logic to it; by the end of an Ekman essay, each stray objection and problem has been gathered up and catalogued. In the mid-sixties, Ekman set up a lab in a ramshackle Victorian house at the University of California at San Francisco, where he holds a professorship. If the face was part of a physiological system, he reasoned, the system could be learned. He set out to teach himself. He treated the face as an adventurer would a foreign land, exploring its every crevice and contour. He assembled a videotape library of people’s facial expressions, which soon filled three rooms in his lab, and studied them to the point where he could look at a face and pick up a flicker of emotion that might last no more than a fraction of a second. Ekman created the lying tests. He filmed the nurses talking about the movie they were watching and the movie they weren’t watching. Working with Maureen O’Sullivan, a psychologist from the University of San Francisco, and other colleagues, he located people who had a reputation for being uncannily perceptive, and put them to the test, and that’s how Yarbrough and the other high-scorers were identified. O’Sullivan and Ekman call this study of gifted face readers the Diogenes Project, after the Greek philosopher of antiquity who used to wander around Athens with a lantern, peering into people’s faces as he searched for an honest man. Ekman has taken the most vaporous of sensations– the hunch you have about someone else– and sought to give them definition. Most of us don’t trust our hunches, because we don’t know where they came from. We think they can’t be explained. But what if they can? (Malcolm Gladwell, 2002)

And so the article takes us on the interdisciplinary journey of O’Sullivan and Ekman. They spend years perfecting the craft of facereading, overcoming assumptions, road blocks and difficult learning curves. These guys scoured remote countries to ensure their research was accurate. They asked questions such as “do tribes across the world recognize similar facial expressions for or are they culturally ingrained” To what end, you may wonder? They were able to document (and learn to mimic) hundreds of facial muscle movement combinations to ultimately write the Facial Action Coding System. (Malcolm Gladwell, 2002) This system is now widely used within the forces, and specialized teams (think CIA)

I loved

How descriptive, informative ad fun to read the article was overall. The topic – let’s face it, who wouldn’t want to possess the ability to read facial expressions down to a minor movement that would otherwise go undetected? Ultimately, I think any topic within the realm of Social Sciences are absolutely engaging and interesting! The ability to trust your instincts is difficult in a world where we find ourselves so desensitized and disengaged. I have had two major encounters in my life where my instincts were literally screaming (SCREAMING) at me to run, and I trusted them. On both occasions I found out later that I was in absolute danger. Part of my interest in this topic is the fact that my profession falls under the realm of community services. I am often exposed to individuals that I need to read (because what they are saying does not add up) The ability to face read would more than just a little helpful! But the other reason for my interest is that it’s just so unbelievable in terms of communication. it is another way to be able to understand and perceive others.

I recommend this article to anyone that has an interest in the area of “knowing” involving instinct, external expression or otherwise. I would also suggest doing it quickly – before the Botox users of the world render the study null and void!

 

Gladwell, M.

The Naked Face

Gladwell, M. (2002). The Naked Face.Gladwell.com. Retrieved 5 October 2014, from http://gladwell.com/the-naked-face/

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Emotional Journey – A Human Tale

Emotional Journey – A Human Tale

“In regard to measuring emotional intelligence – I am a great believer that criterion-report (that is, ability testing) is the only adequate method to employ. Intelligence is an ability, and is directly measured only by having people answer questions and evaluating the correctness of those answers.” –John D. Mayer

Emotional Intelligence and empathy are somewhat familiar to me, as I have studied these topics prior to becoming an Employment Advisor (over 7 years ago) I studied several client focused counselling models that encouraged the use of empathy and highlighted emotional intelligence as valuable in regards to our professional success. I still had to research quite deeply into the definitions (several academic journals and papers) to remind myself how they are defined, and how I relate to them now. I really had to stop and think about my personal work style, how it may have changed, bad habits I have collected along the way and strengths that have developed. I struggled greatly to find resources that resonated with me in regards to “emotional risk” initially, so I am interested to share in my classmate’s discoveries and observations.

I felt the most comfortable with my research on Emotional intelligence. The resources are vast (as are the opinions) regarding this topic.  I found several definitions but settled on one by Kendra Cherry. She states that (EI) refers to the ability to perceive, control and evaluate emotions. Some researchers suggest that emotional intelligence can be learned and strengthened, while others claim it is an inborn characteristic (Cherry, 2014) I went on to read (and re-think) “Emotional intelligence” by Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer. Here, they outline a variety of opposing arguments related to emotional intelligence, before explain and summarizing their own research regarding the topic. The Journal “Emotional intelligence” summarizes that when people approach life tasks with emotional intelligence, they should be at an advantage for solving problems adaptively. The sorts of problems people identify and the way they frame them will probably be more related to internal emotional experience than will be the problems addressed by others. For example, such individuals are more likely to ask not how much they will earn in a career, but rather whether they will be happy in such a career. Having framed a problem, individuals with such skills may be more creative and (Dmcodyssey.org, 2014)

Over time my work style has developed along with my maturity. I am less inclined to take issues home with me, but use techniques, strategies and coaching methods to support and empower the students I work with. I believe that emotional intelligence matures as we do. I believe I am relatively and appropriately self-actualized and this aids and promotes emotional maturity and ultimately “intelligence growth” that increases my capability for success. I also want to add, that drawing the student’s attention in regards to emotional intelligence, can generate interesting and positive conversation regarding the workplace and what they should expect as they leave campus. I can relate that my leadership skills are quite adept, and I attribute this directly to emotional intelligence. This is an area that resonates deeply with me and I feel I have a fairly solid handle on the idea.

I read quite a few different journals and researched a few websites. I enjoyed the easiness of this one:  http://www.zeroriskhr.com/articles/emotionalintelligence.aspx

Empathy:

I had to think hard to try and recall how I would define empathy. It`s one thing to possess the ability to empathize, but how would I explain it to a student for example. The term “empathy” is used to describe a wide range of experiences. Researchers generally define empathy as the ability to sense other people’s emotions, coupled with the ability to imagine what someone else might be thinking or feeling. (Greatergood.berkeley.edu) I suppose layman’s terms for empathy might be “putting yourself in someone else’s shoe’s” Experiencing what they may be feeling in order to “understand where they are coming from”. At least that is how I was able to wrap my own head around it (this time around) Contemporary researchers often differentiate between two types of empathy: “Affective empathy” refers to the sensations and feelings we get in response to others’ emotions; this can include mirroring what that person is feeling, or just feeling stressed when we detect another’s fear or anxiety. “Cognitive empathy,” sometimes called “perspective taking,” refers to our ability to identify and understand other peoples’ emotions. (Greatergood.berkeley.edu) I feel that I possess enough empathy to be able to effectively coach the students that I work with. I recognize that my communication style involves identifying (and uses counselling methods such as reflection of feeling) to continue a healthy and productive appointment. Empathizing is often a `tool’ I am able to use in order to clarify and continue to draw information from students while gaining trust.

 

Ego and Empathy:

I also recognize that through my own work, ego can come into play (certainly in a coaching role) the function of the ego is to use empathy and allow us to see within ourselves; what needs to be healed. Whatever we think someone else “needs” to do, it is appropriate to recognize we are actually talking about our own progress. This process is known as projection. (Greater Good, 2014) I think that in the past as a student myself, I projected my own opinions (based upon my own personal experiences) during our counselling labs. I am very careful not to draw opinions or offer suggestions within my professional advising and coaching role. I don’t make assumptions either as not two individuals are the same, regardless of similarities.

A video to share: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3AgvKJK-nrk#t=200

Emotional Risk:

Here is a challenging little piece of “work“ if I may say so. I was not satisfied with any (and I didn’t really find any substantial) research results in regards to emotional risk. Nothing that I felt really embodied the term. I could only find pieces of the larger Emotional Risk pie. Why is it so elusive I wondered? When I personally think emotional risk, I think “putting yourself out there“ this can take any shape or form, professionally or personally. It could be deciding to tell your spouse that you actually dislike watching WWF re-runs…no, this is not a true life scenario (and I apologize to any WWF fans out there) and generating honest conversation and dialogue. Once small piece of research turned up a few interesting ideas. The basis of the article is taking emotional risk and applying it. The concept in this piece was called Name it and Claim It. This discusses taking the elephant in the room and putting it on the spotlight, laying all your cards on the table. An emotional risk, but worthwhile. It contributes to honest communication. Because when humans say something out loud to each other—as opposed to letting it fester unspoken within each person—a connection is made. You may continue to disagree—but sullen, resentful disagreement is far more corrosive than spoken, acknowledged disagreement. One is connection; one isn’t. (A Tool for Emotional Risk Management, Name it and Claim it) This felt similar to the definition I was toying with. I think emotional risk is a reality so common that we may not even realize how often we are faced with this challenge. I am very interested to see what you (my classmates) found on this topic.

In Works:

 

A Tool for Emotional Risk Management — Name It and Claim It | Trusted Advisor

Green, C. (2008). A Tool for Emotional Risk Management — Name It and Claim It | Trusted AdvisorTrustedadvisor.com. Retrieved 2 October 2014, from http://trustedadvisor.com/trustmatters/a-tool-for-emotional-risk-management-name-it-and-claim-it

Cherry, K. (2014). How Emotionally Intelligent Are You?About. Retrieved 1 October 2014, from http://psychology.about.com/od/personalitydevelopment/a/emotionalintell.htm

Dmcodyssey.org,. (2014). Retrieved 1 October 2014, from http://dmcodyssey.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/EMOTIONAL-INTELLIGENCE-3.pdf

Examiner.com

Ego & Empathy what are they, how can they help?

Examiner.com,. (2010). Ego & Empathy what are they, how can they help?. Retrieved 1 October 2014, from http://www.examiner.com/article/ego-empathy-what-are-they-how-can-they-help

 Greatergood.berkeley.edu

Empathy Definition

Greatergood.berkeley.edu,. (2014). Empathy Definition. Retrieved 1 October 2014, from http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/empathy/definition

 

 

 

 

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Hello! My name is Louise Stiles and I am very pleased to join you all on this interesting journey. I was born in the North of England and came to Canada at age 12. I have studied and traveled through Europe, parts of North Africa, Canada and the Caribbean. I am a Career Adviser on Campus at Durham College in Ontario and I love my role. My other business ventures include over 15 years of Event Management and corporate experience. I titled my blog “Walking the Walk” as I often discuss and encourage further education with the DC students, but have avoided this for myself in recent years. I was beginning to feel like a fraud! So I decided to put aside my fears of failing as a digital online student, wife and mother and have finally taken the bull by the horns!

I do already have a FB and Instagram page (strictly so family across the world can share in our children as they grow) I use Twitter for work, but blogging really made me nervous (as you may read if you view my initial “test” post. It has only been 6 months since I gave up on my Hotmail address (too many ads) and created a gmail account. Ultimately other than taking me several hours to figure out how to download and use Google drive/docs, I think I will survive.

I had NO idea that Google Scholar existed and I believe it may become a “regular” throughout my journey. I explored the following applications:

Web-Citer – allows you to choose an article or book that you wish to cite and immediately provides you with an option of format.

Ghostery – Allows me to relax a little (I am not always truly comfortable with the intrusiveness of online profiles) and see what programs and systems are tracking me online.

Text Converter – This little Gem will read you an article!

Evernote – Allows you to (screen) caputure and share notes, photos and articles online etc.

Citable – User friendly

I found three FB communities that interest me: Vegetarian recipes 24/7, Dirt Bikes Community and Career Counselling.

I want to include a couple of photos so you may share in my life a little. I plan to include my children last fall, Me on my husband’s dirt-bike and our wedding in JA this summer where I was able to marry my sweetheart and the father of my beautiful babies. Enjoy.

 

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